Let’s get something straight…
Sometimes I read posts (from different blogging communities – not from my hood) and I get uneasy, really uncomfortable. I’m not talking about my friend’s colorful posts that make me giggle with secret delight. No, I’m talking about people who make assumptions of others based on politics, religion, geography, age, ethnicity, sex, etc. I’m talking about people who get worked up into a mean frenzy, believing they know everything about a person based on their external affiliations and understanding of the world.
I feel prompted to say, “The map is not the territory.” People are nothing if not complex, but some of us are in the habit of lumping people together for convenience sake. We make assumptions which are, more often than not, lazy and totally off the mark, and then we feel like we’re allowed to spew all manner of crap. The world feels very divided lately and it makes me sick.
What we do is not necessarily who we are. Our behavior is usually just the top protective layer and can be explained and understood on closer examination. Lots of people choose not to put an effort into understanding another person’s motives because it’s just faster and easier to stereotype.
Here’s the thing, none of us fits in to a tidy little mold, right? None of us can be summed up by any one belief. We’re a product of the unique life that we’ve lived. If you neglect to consider the whole person, you’re missing out on all the good stuff.
Politics, religion, geography, age, ethnicity, sex, appearance, status, IQ, etc.
Believe it or not, you can mix and match any of the above things in unlikely ways and I can assure you, there is someone out there that will fit that description.
Love, kindness, patience, mercy, tolerance, understanding, goodness…
These are the qualities that, if you do a little digging, are just below the surface. Be aware, you won’t be able to tap into these core qualities if you’re busy believing that the other surface/external affiliations are some how more important. Don’t be fooled.
In closing, and I know I’m preaching to the choir here, but whatever, just humor me, let’s soften our hearts and be kind, open, loving and look for the qualities in each other that are below the surface, waiting to be felt and experienced, the real qualities that tie us together. Let’s give each other a really wide berth.
Of course if that doesn’t work feel free to start slinging mud. : )
** And no, this does not mean that you throw your sense of humor out the window! Life is not worth living if we can’t make fun of people! tee hee