Match Making
My daughter suggested recently, that I go online to check out some of the popular match-making sites. She thought it might be a fun thing to do, you know, something to lift my spirits. My son explained to me that it’s 2013 and this is how modern people meet each other. All this time and I thought I was gonna meet someone in the produce aisle, maybe near the periodicals at Barnes and Noble or in the line at Chipotle… Well, apparently it doesn’t work that way unless God chooses to intervene, and if He does, it’s more likely it would be at Panera. Pan in Latin means bread, and Era in Latin means time – something tells me that God would like a place where you can get bread anytime. It’s very Old Testament. I think He’d also really like the soup in the bread bowl idea — I know, I do. But I digress…
Who knew that Match.com would provide such great blogging fodder. I don’t know where to begin… should I tell you about the canned responses that they provide for members like, “I think you’re cute,” “Wink,” “Let’s chat,” and “Great profile,” or should I explain the types of photos people choose to display? One gentleman, and I use the term very loosely, had a full camouflage outfit on and was standing behind his truck in the woods with a dead dear hanging out of the back. Oh, and he had his rifle in hand. Apparently he didn’t notice that I was an animal lover in my profile. I’ll give him credit, though, he really had a nice way with words. He called me his, “Queen” and told me, “You do not belong here it belongs to we ugly men.” If that wasn’t enough to sweep me off my feet, he added, “Just give this a try and you will never regret knowing me as your man it is a promise you have to hold on to do you get me pretty?” I think that last line sealed the deal. So what if he doesn’t punctuate and he looks like a member of ZZ Top? For a girl who’s been feeding off of crumbs for a long time, this guy is an all-you-can-eat banquet! (…something along the lines of Golden Corral or Old Country Buffet, I’m thinking.)
All kidding aside, to be honest, going on this site makes me very sad and depressed. Not even for myself, but for all those lonely hearts out there. It really does make me consider how many people are alone and desperate for companionship. Now when I’m out and about I try to see if I can spot them. I guess we look like anyone else, except there’s a ‘vacated’ sign hanging on our hearts. Life is just not the same without a person to share your deepest thoughts and desires with, someone who understands you and loves you.
If you have someone to share your life with, be very thankful — even if he smells, gets on your nerves, and snores. Don’t ever take that blessing for granted.
If I ever want to be reminded of why I have chosen to remain single forever more, I go onto an online dating site. This is Maine. It’s not pretty. 😉 Also, I have learned that sociopaths use those sites to find their next victim, but they do not have to go out and look. Their next victim comes in their in box. Okay, I am admittedly jaded, but if God ever wants me to be in a relationship again, He is going to have to intentionally place that man right in my lap with a bow around his neck. I love being single!
I hear ya, sister. I can almost tell instantly who has bad intentions. I’m seriously surprised how many men live in my area, within a 10 or 20 mile radius. It’s a little weird to think about. I agree, these sites are a big turn off. Sort of sad. I’m gonna leave it to God, as well. I’ll be looking for the bow around the neck, too.
So glad to get your comment!!!
Well, good for you for putting yourself out there. I guess keep an open mind… what is it they say about kissing a lot of frogs? They also say love will come along when you least expect it! But avoid men in camouflage gear!
It was really just a look and see… I’m not sure this is the way I’ll go, but why not investigate? At least it gave me some laughs.
Oh boy.. Yeah, my GF’s tried to get me involved with this 3 ring circus about 6 months after my separation.. I blogged about it (too lazy to look it up) but it was a horrendous nightmare..I felt cheap and needy and desperate. i know their intentions were good and I did explore it but it all seemed so forced to me. I felt worse every time I logged out.. Needless to say I pulled the plug on that within a week and never looked back. Now to be fair, I’m sure there are some really great folks there who are honest, true, etc but I’m too old school for it..
if I can offer any advice (you know me, it’s only what worked for me)..give yourself at least 6 months to a year to reconnect with you, your desires, your wants, etc. That also gives you time to put the ugly baggage in the basement, no man wants a needy one, nor do we..
I have no doubt the universe will line up perfect for you and you will meet (maybe in the produce aisle) a wonderful kind, honest, man who will simply adore you..
(that’s the longest comment I ever left, but for you..anything 🙂
PS-How about the catch phrases the fellas use on those sites.. I still laugh..tee-hee!
The corny one liners and catch phrases! LOL!
Don’t you worry, Lynne. I’m not jumping into anything, it’s not even a consideration. I’m gonna take some Lisa time and get to a really good place. I have no time limit– it may never happen. If it’s in my future I think I’ll know immediately when I see/feel it. I’m not gonna settle for anything less than an adoring ,loving, kind, honest man.
The site I was on truly made me sad. I could feel pain coming from it. 😦
It did, indeed, feel desperate and needy. Why would I put myself in that position? No thanks! I’m glad I looked, though.
I just know you will find what you require from life to be content and fulfilled.. I just know it 😉
You are so right about being grateful for the love we have, Lisa. As for the way your life is going, and the way you are feeling, don’t go looking for love and companionship because the kids tell you to. They mean well, because they want you to be happy, but process whatever you need to first. Everything comes in its time, whether we are making the effort or not. When I lost my son, it felt like everything was over. We then went on to lose our business, house, car. In short, life as we knew it went to the dogs. It all crumbled. I discovered that in the case of millions of people who go through what we went through (and what you’re going through) that we just have to let it all fall by the wayside. We can’t stop the disintegration of our former lives. In the right time, when we have undergone the intended transformation, our lives then builds itself back up. We don’t have to do anything. It will all come right in the end. So don’t put yourself through unnecessary heartache, Lisa. Blog it all out. Share your fears, hurts and lessons, and one day you’ll wake up to something wonderful. Listen to me. I’ve been to horrible places, and come out better for it.
I agree, Yaz. I’m not going to go out looking for love. It will have to come knocking on my door as, One Hot Mess, also stated in her comment. I think my kids, especially my daughter, thought it would be fun to look and communicate with other people in the same boat. Not to worry, I think my life is in the middle of a big course correction. I fully expect to drift for a little while and let the current take me where it will. I don’t have the strength to swim up stream or against the natural flow of things right now, anyway. I’m sorry for all of your painful loss, Yaz, but I recognize in you a quiet strength that likely was born out of that time. I appreciate your wise words. I believe as you do, that it will come right in the end. I think it was Paul who said, “All things work to the good.” I’m banking on it. 🙂
Have a beautiful day!!
Lisa
This is apparently the way ‘everybody’ finds a mate now, people you’d never imagine doing it this way, young, gorgeous, with careers, etc., nice people — sorry if that’s superficial. I think because things have changed, and times are so fast, people appreciate having a computer pick someone with a compatible ‘genome’ history — it cuts out the time spent on horrible dates and with mismatches. I know people who’ve even married this way.
I’m with you — I’m reserved on the subject. I’d still like to find someone through friends or at the museum standing by the Picasso painting. I used to think it would be desperate or that I would be a loser if I found someone this way, but lately, I wonder if I should try it. You might also have read about some of the other bloggers who have gone this route as well. I say go for it, because it does seem to work for a great many people.
Statistically, I think you’re right. It is the way of the future. I certainly wouldn’t feel any safer going to a bar, for heaven sake! I like to think that I could detect a psycho from a good and decent guy. I’m gonna give it a rest, for a while, and just take care of Lisa. I need to lick my wounds, get some rest and heal my heart. It’s hard for me to imagine trusting another man again. Like you, I’m hoping that when the time is right God will guide Mr. Wonderful right onto my path – standing in the museum would be perfect! (But of course it won’t happen that way – too easy)
Maybe someone in this blogging community will do a little match-making for us?! We shall see…
Have a great day!!
Lisa
Well, at least you seem to have found the hidden hangout of all the not-quite-english-speaker comments we get.
And I admire your dedication to blogging – seriously, I’m not willing to go further than jump off a bridge from my readers. But this? Wow!
Maybe it will be better to stick with Panera and B & N. At least if there’s no one appropriate, you can enjoy a meal and a good book…
LOL!! Lily was right, it did lift my spirits, the same way watching the comedy channel does. I have indeed found the hidden hang out for all the not-quite-English speaking single men of America.
You’re right, jumping off a bridge is small potatoes compared to this daring feat. Who knew it would be so scary?
Good advice, Guapo. If I had to choose between a book or a meal and one of these fine Match.com specimens, I’ve gotta go with the book. 😀
Oh, for goodness sakes, Lisa. Despite what you’ve been through, your wonderful humor is still intact. I laughed out loud at this. I think my Sis tried this and she too was very disappointed. Maybe this isn’t the right one for you. There’s all kinds I think. It’s not like it used to be, huh? I’ll tell you what people told me and it used to piss me off: When it’s right, it’s right and it’ll happen when you least expect it.
Grrr, I know, but your focus right now (as I know you know) is on YOU. Your happiness, your healing, your love for yourself and finding a place where you’re absolutely sure you’ll be fine — with or without anyone. Easier said than done, I know and it sucks what you’re going through. It sucks and it’s painful but I know you and your beautiful spirit will shine and what great things are in store for you once you get through this crappy passage you’re going through right now. I’m so sorry but know this, you’ll get through it and I applaud you for sharing this. There are so many people that go through this and you, with your charm, intellect, grace and humor have made it seem a bit funny and humor helps us through so much, right?
(P.S. Any guy over 35 that responds with “I think you’re cute” and “wink,” well you know it’s like the Monty Python movie — RUN AWAY, RUN AWAY!!)
Like you don’t know that. You are inspiring even when you’re hurting. You rock woman. Much love, friend. xxoo
LOL!!! I even made myself laugh while I wrote this! I think I scared some people, though.
Thanks Brigitte for your sweet encouragement, understanding and super kind compliments. I’m so glad that I have you to hold my hand through this and especially glad that we can laugh together at some of the more absurd parts of this situation. If this was in a movie, I’m sure we would both be laughing. Sometimes that’s a good way to look at it. When I need a little perspective that’s what I do.
Thanks for being my good friend and reading this the way it was intended. 🙂
Hahah Golden Corral or Old Country Buffet! He sounds charming. It’s sad to us, but a lot of people probably love to be on there, ya know? They probably feel like they get compliments and stuff all the time. Don’t feel sorry for them. And don’t feel sorry for yourself! Feel sorry for the people that don’t have you in their lives–THAT’S who you should feel sorry for.
You’ll find the love of your life soon. You’re a hottie. And hotties don’t stay single for long!
I second that emotion, Lily.
Is it any wonder that I love spending time with you, Lily? Thanks for the great comment. You’ve helped me keep my spirits up by making me laugh and helping me re-frame things. What a blessing you are in my life.
LOL!! There are so many funny bits on those sites. And you know I love to laugh!
Aww how kind! No prob Momma! Love you lots!
Ah Lisa, I hear you. I have another dear friend married 33 years when he left her for a. Girl younger than their youngest! She loved being married too.
I am sorry this happens to many women. I’m also sorry for the many others who are stuck in marriages that are wrong on so many levels because they have nowhere to go, no resources and nothing to look forward to but more misery.
You do NOT need a man to make you happy or whole. You need to just be you, and take all opportunities to grow and be happy! XxX
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Well said, Charlene! I agree, I certainly don’t need a man to make me happy or whole – it is nice when it all comes together, though.
My plan is to be happy. Plain and simple. I think I can manage that, actually.
Thanks for always being so sweet and supportive. Love your comments!
xoxo
You wonder what people were thinking with those profiles until you realize they weren’t thinking at all. Or at least, for their sake, you *hope* they weren’t thinking!
LOL! There are some very choice profiles on there. It’s worth it just to continue my membership if only to make this a regular feature. Mr. Dead deer was a real charmer. 🙂
Here’s some advice from the “geek me”:
Online dating sites are a hunting ground for scammers looking for their next victim. Online communication creates a false sense of intimacy because it’s easy to hide behind words on a screen. Beware of anybody who gets all lovey-dovey after only a few messages or who says they want to “keep our relationship just between the two of us”. These are classic signs of a predator cutting their victim out of the herd.
These guys usually pose as businessmen who travel a lot. The next step is trolling for personal details while flattering the victim and discussing “long-term plans” for the relationship. Then one day, when the “relationship” is established (and make no mistake, these guys are patient), he gets robbed while on a business trip to London and is desperate for a bit of cash to tide him over; or he has this marvelous investment that’s guaranteed to make astronomical returns; or (fill in the blank).
That said, I do have a couple of friends who have used these sites successfully and met nice people they ended up dating. The key is to avoid the sites until you’re in a place where you can comfortably walk away from someone who tells you everything you want to hear.
But some people just don’t feel comfortable approaching a new relationship with the level of suspicion required to sort out the good ones from the rats. If you aren’t the type of person who’s willing to do that, you’ll probably want to steer clear.
Good luck, and thanks for the good advice about treasuring what we have.
Very sound advice, Diane. I’m very cryptic in everything I write down and since I’ve always worked in the field of mental health, having had direct contact with some very disturbed and manipulative individuals, I think I’m pretty savvy when it comes to spotting the sociopaths. There are good guys on there, no doubt about it, but looking for them is as much fun as searching for clothing articles at the GoodWill. Sure, sometimes you can find something worthwhile, but the work and energy it takes is not really worth it. After rummaging, I just want to wash my hands.
I intended this post to be funny but lots of my readers are taking it very seriously – concerned with my safety and giving me warnings. It’s such a kind group of people.
Thanks, Diane, for being one of the concerned. I’m probably not going to continue my “membership” but if I did, it would only be to have a funny regular feature. It’s a comedy gold mine. : )
Treasuring what we have is always good advice, I feel.
Lisa
I tend to err on the side of ‘serious’ with these sites – I’m glad it was all in fun for you! 🙂
I totally get that. I probably would have responded the same way. Better safe than sorry! Thanks, Diane!
I’m with Brig, hahaha you make me laugh! And dating sites are outstanding blog fodder. A few summers ago, I did my time on Match. I wish I had had a blog then b/c it was good stuff.
It’s all an adventure. Sometimes a painful, hideous one but if you keep your dry wits about you, I think your adventure is going to be worth the read! xoxox
LOL!!! It’s like comedy gold on that site. Seriously, talk about blogging fodder… If I can’t laugh about this then I’ll never get through it. Thanks, Maggie, for seeing the humor in it and laughing with me. xoxox
Smelling, getting on nerves and snoring is part of the human condition. Mind you, if the last one stops and the others increase, he has probably died.
haha! I’m glad you pointed that out. There were times when I wished that had been the case. Just kidding!! 😀
Yip, ‘cos it leads to too much inconvenience in disposal and such … 🙂
Exactly!
Lisa i think that type of site can be dangerous for a woman and maybe some of the people on them are only having fun on line and don’t want a date.
Are there no organizations, activities you can join or clubs for the “older” person where you might meet someone local.
Good luck anyway with your venture 🙂
I didn’t sign up to look seriously, Harry. It was more of just a fun thing to do. I just thought I’d look and see what those sites were all about. I actually had a lot of good laughs, although it is quite sad when you see how many people are desperately searching for companionship.
I think I’ll be just fine. I’m not ready to date yet, anyway.
I’ll keep everyone posted on the highs and lows of this “venture.”
I’m glad your taking it lightly, i read your comment to Diane and we are taking it seriously because i know i worry about people doing this sort of thing.
Anyway, get the slippers on, a glass of wine and he may rap the door 🙂
Thanks Harry!!
Hi,
I can only imagine what some profiles may read like of those dating sites. I could only laugh about the guy with a gun and dead deer, what a way to advertise yourself to an animal lover, it does make you wonder. 🙂
LOL!! He was hideous, Mags. And then I started thinking about the kind of woman he might attract… and that was even scarier. haha!
I have always wanted to try on line dating, but I doubt the crueler angels of my nature could behave themselves long enough on it. My sense of mischief is way too advanced!
tee-hee… I know what you mean. The thing is, you can spot the mischief makers after awhile. At least I think I can. Still, it is an interesting place and I’m sure many people have met the love of their life on there. Who am I to make fun of it?
You’ve just articulated really well why I’m not interested in online dating 🙂
haha! I know, it’s full of creepers. I’m sure there are some good guys on there but who has the time and energy to look for them? Not me. At least not right now.
come on Lisa, break out the camo and work boots out of that closet.. you know you want too 🙂 mmm now that would be a profile picture.
But seriously I triple what Lily said
“And don’t feel sorry for yourself! Feel sorry for the people that don’t have you in their lives–THAT’S who you should feel sorry for.
You’ll find the love of your life soon. You’re a hottie. And hotties don’t stay single for long!”
LOL!! My hobbies are Pinterest and deer hunting. haha!
Thanks for the hottie comp. If only it were true! Maybe if I work really hard at it in the next few months, I can achieve luke warm. 🙂
LISA–. THUMP or first I should say JUMP then THUMP on your head.
Work it baby— you know you can– you are a hot mama..now cut the crapola (giving you my evil librarian eye)
Your evil blue librarian eye? I’m sure it’s real scary. 🙂
yea yea…
ps I would also like to thank you for getting the Fiddler on the Roof soundtrack playing in my head over and over– (post title)
haha! My pleasure! I would have rather had a Match maker of old than go on this web-site!
OMG Lisa LOL! I got tears in my eyes laughing! He forgot to read the part about you being an animal lover. Ha ha! He probably skimmed and thought he read, “animal killer lover” Well, at least he thinks your a queen, he’s probably impressed with your fabulous ability to punctuate or would be if he knew what punctuation was, (he probably hit his head while hunting and went into a comma). An all you can eat buffet at the Golden Corral! LOL!!! That is so funny. We stopped into a Golden Corral once and people were actually sweating from “dishing up” so we had to leave.
But seriously it is going to a huge adjustment after 27 years plus however many years you were together before that. It’s just going to take time. I think everyone of the comments was so full of wisdom. I don’t know what I would do faced with what you’re going through or how I would handle being alone Lisa. But I think I would just take one day at a time and make sure I had my day completely planned out so as to find myself at loose ends as little as possible. Lately, I’ve had a motto for myself that I’ve found very helpful. “Just keep going forward through time.” It’s so simple but it works for me. I guess because how can I argue with that! I’m glad you have so many wonderful friends online Lisa. I’m sure that helps a lot! 😀
LOL! I knew you’d appreciate this post, Linda. Sweating from “Dishing up” sounds so wrong! I would’ve left, too! Eww!
I love that motto and now I’m gonna adopt it. (And I’ll think of you!)
That’s basically what I need to do – just lower my expectations and make it from one end of the day to the next. No need for more than that, at least right now. “Just keep going forward through time.” (It does help that going backward is not an option! God made that very clear with Lot’s wife. She just looked back, for pete sake, and we all know what happened to her! LOL!)
Thanks for all the laughter, Linda. You’re always the bright spot in my day. 🙂
You are always the bright spot in my day too, Lisa. And for some reason just keep going forward through time really resonated with me. It just cuts through everything. And yes it is always a good idea to heed the advice of not looking back. Only today instead of turning into a pillar of ordinary salt we’d probably turn into a pillar of Lowry’s Seasoning Salt! (and probably be bought up by the Golden Corral!) LOL!
haha! Ending up at the Golden Corral, in any form, would be a fate worse than death!
I enjoyed the read!
Thanks. It made me laugh when I wrote it so I was hoping others might get a kick out of it. 🙂
I must say that on first read, I found nothing funny about the post. I read all the comments and went back for another look. Still nothing. I’m sorry, I just find it very sad, for those on the dating sites and for you, or at least your current situation. I can see how some parts might be construed as funny, like the guy with the deer, but I felt your ending was very serious and heartfelt. .
The ending was heart felt. The stuff about the deer guy was all in jest. Written sarcastically. He didn’t really seal the deal with those choice words…. Perhaps it’s just a sense of humor that’s very different than yours. I tend to shift gears – I can write things that are funny and end on a serious note. I’m sorry you didn’t catch the humor.
But I love ZZ Top…I can’t imagine dating again…I’m not sure I even speak the same language as single people…best wishes and much love…be encouraged!
haha! Dating again seems so unnatural!
Thanks, Stephen – I may need more than encouragement. I may need a bullet proof vest! LOL!
I’ll loan you Jake the Wonder Dog…far better than any bullet proof vest…although Susie will probably have to come also,because crime fighting Jake doesn’t like to get more nine inches away from her…be encouraged!
Aww… little Jake. 🙂 I’ll take him and Susie, too!
I’ll just stick to good, old-fashioned watermelon-thumping in the produce section… Ha, thanks for the site review!
Good choice! I agree. It’s much less creepy in the produce aisle. Haha!
Very interesting. They really have canned responses??? That is funny.
It’s both funny and sad. I can’t imagine the kind of women that responds to them.
I hear you. Still, canned responses??
Great post. The problem with the canned responses and cliched descriptions is that they reduce what should be one of life’s great adventures down to a petty, small endeavor. I love your description!
Karen
Thanks! The whole thing feels very uncomfortable and awkward. When you combine those canned responses with some of these guys who seem so lost and desperate, it is reduced down to something petty and small, you’re absolutely right.
I can’t help it that I think some of these guys are ridiculous. 🙂
I’m signed up to Plenty of Fish dot com and looking on there I’m sometimes thankful that I am in fact single. There are people in their early twenties with three children, uneducated (you can tell by the way they go “I luv 2 rite and reed”) and have a face that’d make the devil shed a tear of fear. Reckon I’m gonna be single for awhile haha.
Haha! I’m not sure why you have been taken immediately. You’re a good catch, keeping with the “plenty of fish” theme. Seriously, you and I will find the right person at the right time. That’s how it’s gonna go down. We’re not gonna have to look, they’ll just be pulled to us like a magnet.
LOL! A face that makes the devil want to shed a tear of fear!
I didn’t know we had met!
Lol!!!
Hey, I’d be more attracted to your avatar face than the deer hunter!!!
Good!
Oh God. I have a serious concern that they deer hunter could be any or all of my male relatives 🙂 I’m sure this quirky start is disheartening, but I do believe with your wit and spunk you will find another person to do life with 🙂 Keep your head and your heart up, missy.
Haha! Well, he’s someone’s relative.
They say there’s a lid for every pot… I hope I don’t have one of those discontinued models.
Thanks for your great comment and encouragement, Tori.
(I feel especially bonded to you now that I know we have giant children in common!)
I love the Panera = bread anytime! That sounds far better than match.com any day! I have a dear friend who tried the match sites for a little while. She said it was as close to a nightmare in real life as she has ever had. She is sticking with bookstores and coffee shops from now on. It sure does make good blog ideas, though!
haha! Yeah, it’s perfect for blog material. I could actually feature a different man each week. Part of me thinks it’s funny and then obviously part of me thinks it’s sad. I agree with your friend, it’s probably best to stick to bookstores and coffee shops. At least that way you get an accurate representation of the person. Some of the guys put up pictures from college – it’s like, “Really?” LOL!!
OMG…..I’m still laughing. You know you can get some pink camo down the road at Cabela’s!!! or find a single guy….pick the fishing dept not the hunting isle…lol. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. Oh, great insight on ‘Panera’ Bread. I did not know what the name meant.
Haha! Pink camo! Maybe I should hang out at Cabela’s! I guess I could also move to Alaska? At least these are good back up plans if I get desperate. 🙂
I love Panera! I think there’s another meaning but that’s the one I liked the best.
good fodder for a post but not necessarily life — like your last paragraph —
from your pic you are a cutie patootie and will only be alone as long as you want to be–and from your writing you are smart and sweet and sassy–so no worries for you
LouAnn!! Cutie patootie!! You’re funny and very sweet. I’m just hoping that the ones who fall for “smart, sweet, and sassy” are not already taken. (I may have an extra dose of sass around the edges!) tee-hee
sass keeps ’em in their place!
It certainly does!
Humor intact – check, still inquisitive about the world around you – check, empathetic – check… Sister, you’re doing fine. Much love, V
Aww… Vickie. Thanks for “checking” in on me! I’ll be okay as long as I can keep things in their proper perspective and find things to laugh about along the way.
I love your comments – you have some soulful quality that always lifts me.
Thanks, my dear friend.
Lisa
xox
Ok, I’m so old I went looking for a disco song… and this is what I came up with… not the “soul sister” I was expecting… but aren’t they adorable? http://youtu.be/kVpv8-5XWOI
I love that song!! They are adorable. I would’ve been looking in the disco section, too, maybe getting ready to hop on board the Soul Train! haha!
Hey, soul sister – that’ll be our song. (Something tells me, though, that you’re not so old…? or, at least, not as old as you think you are.)
xox
Lisa
omg…I do the same thing…when I’m out…’Did that guy respond to my ad?’ hahahahahaha…it is an acquired taste for sure this online dating thing and by acquired, you have to have the stomach and the humor for it…lots of duds…but there is a dude out there who is just a guy, like you are just a girl…they exist. Sometimes the paths cross..and don’t dis Panera bread yet. There is a whole wide world out there waiting to happen.
LOL! I figured, you, of all people, would know what I’m talking about. There are many duds, for sure. I love the guys that show interest even though they’re like 4 inches shorter than me…? Seriously, what’s that all about? What girl likes to look down on the top of her boyfriend’s head? And I even make it a point to say, “Hey, I’m tall – take that into consideration.” I don’t even think they read the profiles… maybe some do…
I hope if I have ‘a special someone out there in the world’ that he falls right into my lap, that there’s no denying that he’s my guy, that bells and whistles go off. I’m just to tired to give it any energy, ya know? That’s what I want – total knowledge of who my mystery man is. Is that too much to ask for? haha!
Hope you’re having a beautiful day, Miss Judy.
xoxo
You are putting into the dating karma pot my friend…its not WHAT you do towards this dating thing, but like you said, giving it energy….perfect! Just play.
Hey, if you don’t mind a guy who smells, gets on your nerves, and snores, then I’m your man. Of course, it probably also describes the full camouflage outfit “gentleman.”
The only support I can give is that you already have an instinct to keep yourself away from the winkers and self-centered bad grammar guys who flood the dating services.
CaL, I think you’re head and shoulders above, “We ugly men.” Don’t be surprised if I come knocking on your door – if your only flaws are smelling, snoring and getting on my nerves, you may be the man of my dreams!! haha!
Hey, at least the deer guy could potentially provide for you during lean times. Right? You have to admire a man’s ability to live off the land. And blend in perfectly with his environment. And sing every ZZ Top tune at a moments notice. The more I think about it, this dude could be the one. 🙂
Have you seen Catfish yet (the show and the movie)? Man, there are some screwed up people online.
bahaha! “And sing every ZZ Top tune at a moments notice.”
I should have known you would zero in on the survivor skills – blending in with the environment, and all. Naturally, these are all high on my list for potential mate.
I saw parts of Catfish, enough to concur with you. It’s a little freaky and yet I pride myself on thinking I know who they are. (Don’t worry, “Eric” I won’t tell anyone your a 14 year old girl. Your secret’s safe with me.) *wink*
I’m, like, 15, actually. Ugh.
hahah! I knew it!!
Thanks to changing internet providers and thus going without the web for a few days, I’m late to the party.
Glad to see your droll tongue in cheek humor is still intact, my dear Grippy. I had a chuckle during this, and, having tried it once, agree it’s not worth the time or typing. I’d rather get my dinner protein wrapped in plastic wrap at the meat market than some man bring it home strapped to the car. Ew!!
What is it with cammo wear? I see it far too often as a fashion statement, and, if I can see you, well, it’s not doing it’s job to blend you into your surroundings, is it?
I think it’s very soon L. I’ll spare you my therapeutic advise, as I think you can find your own way pretty well… but it’s soon. That said, a friend who did Match.com had THE funniest stories to tell us about people she met, etc… until she met the most wonderful guy I can imagine! They just bought a house together and all her friends love him. So, who knows…. 😉
Not to worry, I was just looking around to see what it’s all about. My daughter thought it would be “fun” to look, and it was! More like FUNNY! It’s rich blogging fodder on there, that’s for sure.
I don’t think I’ll be ready or have the desire for a good long time. I’m way too depleted. The idea of it exhausts me.
It’s great that your kids are being supportive and encouraging. Just let yourself heal a bit; rest, and then things will happen when they should. xo