Embracing my inner man…
Sometimes I wonder where I fall on the continuum of masculine and feminine. I’ve always had my suspicions that I teeter close to that middle dividing line, the cusp where all the enigmatic people reside. The following are indications that my inner man is alive and well.
- When shopping in a department store I gravitate to the men’s section. I LOVE men’s clothes. The simplicity, the fabrics, the masculine patterns, the colognes, the leatha! Men have a uniform, of sorts, and that’s always been appealing to me. When the film, “Annie Hall” came out it was like the universe winked at me. “There you go Lisa, feel free to wear ties, men’s jackets, shoulder pads, etc.” The funny thing is, I already was wearing that stuff. (I love wearing Men’s shirts.) And just as a sidebar, Diane Keaton has always been my role model and now Jeff Lewis, is a close second.
- In the Chinese horoscope my energy, or life force is Yang. Yang energy is said to be aggressive, male and socially indifferent. Conversely, the Yin energy is interpreted as passive, female, docile, receptive, and society oriented.
- I’m strong, like scary strong. I think I’d be one of those people that could lift a car in order to save the person pinned beneath. When my adrenaline kicks in, nothing is impossible. I’m fast and forceful – a presence that is felt to the point that people actually comment on it. If I had a dime for every time someone told me I was, “so fast” I’d probably
be richhave $4.00. I also walk in front of people. Is that rude? I can’t help it. Being slow feels so unnatural for me. It pains me. I always thought it was because I was tall and my legs are long, but I think it’s because I’m always in a hurry. I’d never make it in one of those societies where women walk 10 paces behind the men. It would kill me. No, seriously, it would kill me.
- I’ve worked in plenty of Mental Health Hospitals. Always and without fail, those patients who have sexual identity disorders, of all varieties, LOVE me. When I say “love” I mean they fall in love with me. This goes for both women and men. It got to the point that the staff would always assign those patients to me. So what kind of vibe am I giving off, anyway? Is my testosterone showing? Is my energy confusing to confused people and so they feel at home with me? What the heck?
- My final point, maybe my strongest point in this whole discussion, is that I found out, after having my DNA done by 23andme, that I am… some of you should sit down for this… 2.5% Neanderthal. That’s right. Forget ancestry.com, if you really want to know who your ancestors were you’ll need to dig deep, maybe in a cave with a bone. Luckily, this bit of information was counter balanced with the fact that I’m related to Marie Antoinette. Maybe Neanderthal man and Marie Antoinette are the two opposing forces on the continuum?
* You should know that other clients from 23andme have much greater amounts of Neanderthal, like 3% and 4% and they seem to be very proud of it. I think John C. Riley might have 5%…? Or maybe he’s Cro-Magnon man?
** When I ask people if I seem masculine to them they always tell me I’m very feminine. But then I wonder if they say that because they’re afraid of me? 🙂
Maybe you come off as masculine because you’re confident and comfortable with yourself? And to be fair doesn’t everyone fall in love with you? Or maybe everyone on WordPress has sexual identity issues.
I’m not very masculine at all but compared to most men I meet I’m doing pretty well. I think there’s a huge drop off from a real manly man to whatever’s next.
What would Neanderthal Marie Antoinette tell the people to eat? I don’t think cake is that old.
Now it’s my turn to frame your comment. Yes, Tim, everyone falls in love with me. That must be it. Thanks for saying that. Sadly, I’m going to try and believe it. ha!
That continuum, to be fair, is pretty extensive, and by extensive, I mean it goes forever in both directions. You seem masculine to me. I think confidence is probably a big factor. I agree.
I think I would fit into that 5% along with John C. Riley. I’ve often joked that I’m Robin Williams illegitimate son. Let’s just say it’s a good thing I’m not a swimmer. I’d go broke buying razors.
Ahahahah! OMG! That’s so funny! You’re a manly man, indeed, if you have any Robin Williams in you.
very interesting prognosis– I think we are all a mix of feminine and masculine but I am highly suspect of things that use the words feminine and passive and docile together — I know very few women who are passive and docile
I agree. It’s all a blend. Yeah, who says to be feminine you have to be docile? I don’t think I’d ever want to be docile. haha!
Sometimes I want to write the word HUMOR across the top so that no one takes me too seriously. See, not only is my masculine/feminine energy confusing, so is my sense of humor. 😀
Hope you’re having a great weekend!
oh I got the humour from this – it was a really good post — it was the definition of ying that I question and that in no way reflects on you
You’d be surprised. Sometimes people take me very seriously – probably because I write about serious topics too. Yeah, Yin and Yang are opposing forces that, according to the Chinese, should always be in balance if possible.
hahahaha…what a brilliant post…loved it 🙂
I so wanna get a DNA test….just discovered a few labs offering this in India…yoohoo…gonna save up for some ancestry tests..based on my location…won’t be surprised if I’m related to Genghis Khan 🙂
It’s really worth getting. There’s a lot of science to it that’s over my head, but in general it’s pretty fascinating. I had both the ancestral and medical parts done. The medical portion is scary in it’s accuracy. There’s so much valuable information that I’ve even taken it to my doctor so that unnecessary tests don’t get performed.
Genghis Khan was a hottie! You might be exactly right. 🙂
🙂
I’m all for mens clothing myself.. nice and comfy. So dear Grippy you seem to be a woman of many traits– which is your favorite? Super human strength? Confidence? Fast walker? Magnetic? Charming?
Do tell
I don’t know if I like having any of those qualities – and feel free to take magnetic and charming off the list. That’s very subjective. I don’t think being strong or walking fast is very attractive! haha!
I guess it’s good to be confident. That one I like.
I love all those qualities probably because I have none of them, although I am strong for a short squat gal. Don’t have to lift to far off the ground.
As far as charming and magnetic.. you are both my dear and your faithful followers prove that
Audra, I am deeply wounded that you have not added to astrological fun over at the Banter. Deeply wounded. There, I got my feelings out on Grippy’s blog and I feel all better now.
what?
what am I missing in my fuzzy state?
I cannot have that.. I am heading over there now..
I’m afraid of you. Just kidding but I admire you because you are tall. Sigh. First of all, this what you wrote: “if you want to really know who your ancestors were you’ll need to dig deep, maybe in a cave with a bone.” I laughed out loud. And seriously don’t we all have some caveman in us somewhere? 2.5% is kind of scary so I do respect your strength. My masculine side comes out when I drive in NY traffic and people ride my bumper and blow their horns (ALL THE TIME FOR NO REASON) and cut me off — some serious whoop-a*s man comes out then and you’d be amazed at what comes out of my mouth.
You said I was Yin and I’m good with that but I don’t think of myself as docile. I’m like you in that, I walk fast. For men’s clothing, I like boxer shorts, one of those tank-top tee-shirts and I tie a tie around my head in case I need it later. ;).
Just kidding, I’m rambling and I’ve had ladies hit on me in earlier years — does that count? I think it’s rather flattering, don’t you? I can totally understand why your female and male patients fall in love with you, Grippy. I think I just fell a little in love with you myself.
I’ll stop now.
Now I’m laughing out loud!! OMG!
If you’re like my sister then I know you’re capable of soft and feminine and you also can get riled up – like driving in city traffic. Good example.
You should have seen my face when I read the Neanderthal bit from 23andme. I was like, what the heck? LOL! I seriously have very little cave man compared to others (believe me I checked and did a comparison) so I was relieved to discover that. But still… Sheesh. No wonder I’m growing a beard and mustache! haha! Oh, wait, that’s hormone related. haha!
Ramble on pretty lady…
You always make me laugh.
Grippy
xox
the images we are creating on wordpress..lordy
I know, right? We should have some sort of rating system – This one might get DI.
Disturbing Images.
Seriously, I was just kidding, really. Just getting into the whole spirit of things. Lordy.
This was funny Grippy — especially your findings at the end!
‘Socially indifferent’ — wow — so that’s the way you would explain me. I like that and if you don’t mind I’ll borrow it to describe me.
After reading Brigitte’s astrology post, I see that you’re Leo — I was thinking you’re probably a really good mother — especially with all the other traits. All Leos I know are the best moms.
Thanks, Sandee. You and I are both water Tigers in the Chinese horoscope. I think you have that Yang masculine energy like me. Probably why I relate to you and find you funny.
According to the book I have in front of me… Tiger women have a disdain for imposed schedules, traditions, and rules. They are perceived eccentric. They need to live their life THEIR WAY. Tigers are urgent people and always in a hurry to get things done right, they commonly choose to operate alone. Associations and group or team projects are ill advised. In the Tiger’s impatience they’ll simply wrench the helm from the unsuspecting hands of a partner and go it alone.
One more thing…
Tigers don’t understand artificial boundaries between human beings. Titles, positions, labels and rank pass right by them. They could not care less. If a tiger meets you they are interested in YOU.
Anyway, just thought those things might describe you, too?
They do describe me! I need to check out that book you recommended in Lily’s post the other day.
From one tiger to another — raowr!
First, can I say I love Jeff Lewis. I don’t even care that he’s gay, I would so marry him..Now the Neanderthal part is interesting because from what I know of you I see you as very confident but so very feminine. That is why many people fall in love with you.. Remind me never to go shopping with you because we would be like the tortoise & the hare. I am a slowwwwwwwww-poke..
So basically after we fight for Jeff Lewis’s affection (I don’t care that he’s gay either) then we will avoid shopping together. Perfect. Let’s do it! haha!
Thanks for seeing me as confident and feminine, Lynne. I never know how people perceive me. Hopefully I don’t give off too much of a cave man vibe. 😉
I just realized, maybe that woman hit you three times with her grocery cart cause you were movin’ slowwwwwwwwwww? haha!
Grippy,
This will be slightly off topic, simply because I have read the same argument in two comments: Why is it masculine to be confident? Is a trait find in man? And does being confident makes a woman manly? I’m asking out of mere curiosity… My wife exudes femininity while being string headed, believing in her set of values and being able to hold her own during a debate.
You, my dear Grippy, are a tower of strength because of your sensitivity AND sensibility, your kindness, and your composure.
Le Clown
Grippy,
It was also my intention to sparse my comment with typos. Sheesh…
Le Clown
Luckily, I didn’t catch a single one 🙂
Gosh, I would have written this post sooner if I had known I’d be showered with so much love. Thank you for that sweet comment, Eric.
As for confidence… It probably reads as STRONG. Women who are strong are maybe a little threatening to some people, men in particular, maybe they’re even feared? The world does not always take kindly to a woman who speaks her mind. Ask Barbara Streisand, Margaret Thatcher, Hillary Clinton, Jane Fonda, Tina Fey, etc. Some cultures actually revile strength in women.
If you’re able to love a strong, confident woman then I think that speaks very highly of you.
I walk fast, I’m wicked strong, I like to wear boxer shorts to bed and I have hairy aunts. I’m not sure what this makes me, but, if I ever say I’m going to date a guy that looks like the one in the last photo, slap me until I come to my senses.
haha! You’re my kind of woman. Maybe one day we can go for a walk?
If you are anything at all like Annie Hall, you are my kind of lady. I cannot begin to tell you how much I love that movie (BTW, have we had this conversation before? I feel like we have.) and it’s primarily because her character is so full and multifaceted. She changes all throughout the film but has a thread of Annie running through her the entire time. More than just wearing neckties from Grammy Hall and having that inclination towards manly clothes, she reminds me of you because she always reveals more and more about herself and is so lovable and REAL.
Awww… Emily. Seriously, what a thoughtful thing to say. That’s just the best compliment, to me. If that’s how people see me then I can relax and feel good. I love her for those same reasons. She’s just so unexpected and fresh. You’re right, she’s real and on a path of self discovery. I think we can all relate.
Hope you’re having a great weekend!
I am the definition of man, you don’t get more man than me. The only way I could be any more manly is if I wore a hat that said “MAN” written across the front of it. I actually lifted a car once. Not over my head, that’d be showing off, but I lifted the back end of a Ford Fiesta to knee height then dropped it. (Which seemed to have messed up my shock absorbers but it was totally worth it)
What’s that competition they have where guys pull trucks and lift crazy things like ship anchors… Is it the Strong Man competition? I can see you on that show. You are indeed a manly man, Pete Howorth. One day I’ll buy you a hat that says, “man” just in case anyone ever wonders. Haha!
Tonight some random girl in the smoking area of this pub in Sheffield came up to me and said “Are you ‘Ard Pete?” I had no clue who she was, I said yes and she said “I thought you were” then gave me an Ace of Spades playing card and went away into the crowd. I had no clue how she knew me or what giving me a playing card was about but I can only assume I’m famous. =/
That’s weird. I think you’re right to assume you’re famous, what other explanation could there be? Haha! What do you think the ace of spades was for?
I have no clue, it got weirder though because my friend Al pulled out a 5 of spades from his wallet, then another friend revealed he had a Queen of Hearts.
It’s like one of those dreams where nothing makes sense, but it was real life. My friend Al just said, “never leave home without a playing card”. I assume this is some sort of Sheffield thing hah! Also I would go on one of those strongman competitons but I own a neck.
haha! I didn’t know what you meant by that until I pulled up the picture. I wonder if he gets many dates? Most women like a good neck if you don’t have one, well then, you’re outta luck.
I’m gonna start carrying a playing card around with me. Maybe it will bring me luck. At least I’ll be welcomed in Sheffield.
2.5% Neanderthal actually sounds really cool to me, Grippy. Although I think you’re right about John C. Reilly, bless him. It sounds to me like you’re an optimal mix of yin and yang, masculine and feminine (although I’m absolutely NOT down with yin being synonymous with docile, F— that). I think I’m a pretty good mix of both too, although I look like I have the build of a sumo wrestler if I try wearing men’s style clothing.
Haha! Sumo wrestler! No way! Weebs, all I really know about your appearance is that you have a nice rack and guys on the street whistle at you. I have to assume you’re giving off some sort of vibes. You strike me as a gal with lots of yang and a dash of yin, you know, for good measure. We probably have a similar mix. Yeah, I’m with you on docile. I’m not sure if that’s the author’s word or if that’s what the Chinese really think about females? Maybe something left over from the Ming dynasty?
Imagine my horror when I saw Neanderthal on my DNA. WTF? That wasn’t exactly what I was looking for as a self-esteem booster. Sheesh. The only thing I could do with that was write a post and hope that everyone would find it as funny/nightmarish as I do.
Enjoy your Sunday!!
Grippy
Love your post!
haha! Thanks, Charlene!
LOL!! OMG!! Neandra Antoinette! I think this is my all time favorite post so far! So unexpected and hilarious!! HA! I’m really quick too. In fact, when I was a waitress people thought I was on speed! I wasn’t! But that should tell you something. Can you imagine you and I on shopping trip? We’d be done in 15 minutes including lunch and checking out every menswear department in town! haha! 😀
LOL! Neandra Antoinette! Just imagine my horror upon receiving that DNA update. I think they could have refrained from sharing that little tid-bit with me. Now when I find a few stray facial hairs I’m not sure if it’s my hormones or my cave dwelling ancestors!
I’d love to go shopping with someone who is as speedy as I am — It’s a lonely sport when you leave everyone in the dust. haha! We would be hilarious together. I think fifteen minutes is very doable! Lord knows I like to hunt and gather! haha!
Hey, I just realized that my speed might be genetic – my ancestor’s probably had to be fast to out run the wooly mammoths that chased them!! LOL!!
Lord knows I love to hunt and gather!! LOL!!! We have to go shopping!! 🙂
Neanderthaler? Marie Antoinette? God, your life must be awesome, beyond words :). A bit of maleness won’t hurt you I guess. Let your inner man come out I’d say!
Rest assured, NBI, I’m sure you have some Neanderthal in you, as well. The question is how much of that DNA do you carry? As women we should all embrace our inner man. I think it’s good for us.
Hope you had a wonderful weekend and that your classes are going well. I’m sure you’ve grown to really love it by now. 🙂
Or is it just confidence?
You’re not alone in thinking this. Le Clown and a few others feel this way, too. I think “confidence” can read as strong and strong reads as MASCULINE. I don’t know?
Yeah, I can see that definition. Though in my mind there’s a difference.
That’s because you’re a secure, strong, confident male in your own right. You don’t get threatened by confident women. I wish there were more like you, Guapo 😉
*blushing*
John C. Reilly is also the first name that came to me when I thought of people with potentially higher rates of Neanderthal.
He does indeed have the look of a cave dwelling people. He doesn’t just have a low brow, God love him, I think he has a low brain.
Excellent! Your writing just gets better and better. However, the man thing has ruined one of my fantasies. Thanks alot! HF
Haha! Only one? I was certain this would destroy all fantasies. I’ll admit, it was tongue in cheek. I’m not really a man, I just play one on this post. Feel free to reinstate all previous thoughts.
Thanks for the nice compliment, HF. It’s writers of your caliber who’ve helped me to improve.;)
Have a Neanderthal free day.
Lisa
Ah, Lisa, if you could read my mind, I bet you would slap those thoughts right out of my head! I shall now think of you as a man. That way, your honor will remain intact! HF
What honor? tee hee
Okay, very well. From this day forward I’ll be a man. (By the way, I don’t need to know your thoughts to want to slap your head.)
Now that’s funny! HF
This must be why I like you – I’ve never been the “girly” type either.
I think you’re right. We’d get along great. Especially after we had a few pots of coffee! Haha! By the way, I always LOVE your avatar picture.
Even when you were the only parent around, I still felt like I had a mom AND a dad in one. Haha You are a very strong person and I think you get that from your dad. But you can also be sensitive which is more feminine. Best of both worlds, really! Great post!
So what are you saying, I’m Hannah Montana? haha! Thanks my Lil!
Hah yes. You’re a normal type like a Jigglypuff but also like a ghostly Gengar who battles real tough.
lol remember that pokemon song? Please say yes.
Wait, what are you talking about? JK!!! of course I know the Pokemon song, what kind of mother do you think I am? sheesh!
Hey, how about something new. I’m tired of reading about your inner man! HF
Oh, I get it, now it’s your turn to harass me, huh?
I think there may be still a few more people out in the blogosphere that need to learn about my inner man, it’s a very hot and relevant topic.
May be relevant, but not hot! I’ll bet your inner man leaves nose hairs in the sink! HF
Okay. That was funny.
My next post will be smokin’ hot. And by “smokin’ hot” I mean I’ll leave off any mention of nose hairs.
I can’t believe I missed this until now. It will not surprise that I am also very strong. I have “freakish upper body strength” according to many people. We are meant to be.
Harper told me he was tired of reading about my inner man and I told him, there are still a few more of my peeps that need to read it. (meaning you) Now that you’ve had a good laugh, Mags, and we’ve bonded over our freaky strength, I can write a new post. haha!
HF is not the boss of you! xox
He can be so abusive at times. xox
I’m hurt. Truly. My two favorite ladies badmouthing me. I shall slink to my man cave and lick my wounds. Meanwhile, Lisa, you could try writing a new blog. HF
Oh-KAY!! I wrote a post. So zip it.
I’d like to visit your man cave – I imagine that’s where you contemplate ideas like going from “Jewels” to “Junk.” That one made me laugh. I must admit.
Lol. I like more manly things too. Hate shopping and talking about recipes (or trying then), etc. but I am all girl!
Haha! I think there are a lot of us out there like this.
I do too. I think it’s more about personality than gender. 🙂
You may be right. 🙂